Ring in the Bling

I find myself looking down at the engagement ring newly on my ring finger and going, "oh right I’m in engaged!" I guess you can say I’m still getting used to it and as a result, I’ll often stare at my bling in wonder. Luckily only my baby has caught me staring at it. However, I forgot to put it on this weekend when heading to Starbucks and felt bad about it. I also keep getting it caught on my clothes and stabbing Raphael with it by accident when reaching out for a hug. Figuring I can’t be the only woman to go through this, I’ve asked some of my married friends how long it took them to get used to their rocks and to share funny anecdotes.

My old coworker said in the beginning she’d look at her ring all the time when typing at work and almost got in an accident when it caught her eye while driving, lol.

My middle and high school friend Anjali Desai, now Anjali Shah says, “I have a wedding band along with the engagement ring now and I still catch myself staring at it because it reminds me of the time it was given to me. The only thing I’m embarrassed about is that I’ve always been very reckless with my hands; I’ve banged my ring into things (doors, tables, getting caught in my clothes) scratched my face up (not to mention Milind’s face) unfortunately that is a habit I haven’t shaken off to this day! But I’m trying to get better at it!!”

My best friend, Divina, who is now on her 2nd year of marriage writes: “My wedding ring has become apart of my body and soul. I feel almost naked when I don't have it on. I love looking at it because I think my ring is the most beautiful ring ever (I know I am baised) Ha. Joking aside it’s a symbol of the love Eddy and I have for each other so no surprises here. I forget to put it back on when I do the dishes, take a shower etc. Then I feel like I am missing something look down and don't see my ring. A little panic sets in and I have to retrace my steps. When we first got engaged I would scratch myself all the time. Even now I rip stockings or get it caught on delicate materials.”

Forget about getting your ring caught on merely clothes though, my friend Nicki from college wrote back to me with her story and I gasped out loud while reading it. "My pretty engagement ring mostly affected my nose ring. I used to leave it on all the time, even when I was sleeping or taking a shower. So when I was washing my face in the shower, it hooked on my nose ring and ripped it out of its hole---ouch!" The things you can still learn about your friends. She then went on to write: "Once I forgot to wear my ring when I was going out to dinner with my inlaws. I felt so empty without it on my finger. I actually kept my left hand under the table so no one would see me without it. I felt as if I did something wrong by not remembering to put it on."

The other night at 80s Night over at V Lounge in Santa Monica, I noticed random guys start to flirt with me and then glance down at my ring and stop immediately. It’s kind of funny. Like my ruby contains cock-blocking kryptonite! Sucks that men don’t wear engagement bands too, not fair! Although, I'm glad we don't have the pressure that they have when it comes to picking out just the right ring for their future wives.


  1. First, a story: My friend's mother had a honking-large diamond engagement ring back in the day, and went to wash her hubby's car for him. A nice gesture, but when she got to washing the windows, she didn't notice that the ring had rotated around and was facing downwards. Now, if you remember from science class, diamond is harder than glass. YUP! When she got done, there were these huge arcs cut into the glass of the windshield where she had wiped. Oops. :)

    In terms of my own wedding band, I've taken it off exactly once since getting married almost 4 years ago, and that was only for a few seconds to let it be used as a prop. Otherwise, it's a part of me now. Partially because I'd lose the damned thing, but mostly because I always want that reminder of her with me.

    Engagement rings might have cockblocking essence in them, but wedding bands have one of two reactions when women spot them -- either they back off (if they were only in for a score), or they relax. There's a vast amount of them that see you either as a) more mature or b) married, and therefore, not going to hit on them. At least, that's my perception. Very funny to watch.

  2. I know a lot of men that do not wear their wedding bands at all. Some truly do just forget to put it on; but my Dad, in particular, can not wear his any longer. He works outside for a living, so he never wore it for fear of losing it. I remember seeing him come home from work caked in mud, dirt, and whatever else he got into that day. When he was married at 18, he had his wedding band sized to fit his thin, boney fingers. But after 30 some odd years of working 80 hours/week outside, his hands not only got weathered and rough with calouses, but they also grew bigger and thicker. His wedding band now can not even slip past the tip of his pinky!

  3. I love these ring stories. Keep them coming since I have yet to get one =(. That story about the windshield by tarsi210 in the comment section is hilarious. I couldn’t stop laughing.

  4. Cock-blocking kryptonite! LMAO

    Well, I took my ring off when I was pregnant w/ #2 and it was lost or stolen (we had movers)...I have no idea what happened. Now, I just wear a silver band w/ diamonds. It's small, but I like it b/c there is no scratching or catching on anything. Btw, wait 'til you have kids...you'll really have to worry about scratching then. :) Most of my friends now just wear plain bands.


  5. You had mentioned how men don’t have to wear engagement bands in the US; well in most places in India couples have engagement ceremonies where engagement rings are exchanged for both men and women. Interesting huh?!

    Great job with the stories!

  6. I love all these stories. And more importantly, I love that you're enjoying your engagement.

    When Jon and I were flying somewhere and the sun would shine through the airplane window, I would angle my ring just right so the diamond reflected and shined in his eyes. He'd blink and laugh, "Stop that!" And I'd say, "I can't help it! That's what you get for buying me such sparkly things." He loved that. Now it sparkles on a pendant around my neck. Thanks for making me remember that, T. It put a lovely smile on my face.