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April 8, 2008

Nice to meet you

It’s funny, now that I’m not going on dates anymore, but have been actively trying to make more friends out here in L.A., I can’t help but notice the similarities of making a new friend and dating. There’s the exciting getting to know you phase, the interview like questions, the awkward moments and then you either bond or some annoying habits or personality traits arise that you don’t like in a friend. Or maybe it turns out that their just not that into you either ;)

Most of all, new friendships take work, just like new relationships. You have to actively make an effort, plan events and outings, think about what you’re going to wear, etc. I’m not saying I’m like this with all my friends, just the new ones. My friendships from college, high school and in New York City have already been forged and the cream has already risen to the top and our rough patches are already over and done with (hopefully!). I miss them.

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  1. I miss my old friends too. the ones where I could do basically anything to them and we'd still be friends afterwards.

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  2. Oh, I know. For some reason, it seems that my new friends will never quite measure up to those old ones. Not sure if I'm just not as willing to open myself up to them the way I did with the old ones, or what.

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  3. You are SO right! And some days I don't have the energy and have to "cut my losses"

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  4. I think it is especially hard when the opportunity presents itself for you to befriend a coworker. I had one bad experience where it was going great, then she barfed all over my apartment--carpet and couches--and that is what did it. She refused to speak to me ever again out of emberassment I guess. How awkward to still see her everyday, too?!

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  5. I am so like this too. When I am trying to make new friends or meeting new people I basically go at it like a new date, sort of.

    And the old friends don't need any of that because they already know me for the crazy gal I am :)

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  6. It's also a big deal to find other couples for friends. I always said if we moved back to LA that I'd want to live in the same town as my bff and her husband...we all love each other and are fun. ;)

    ~SL

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  7. So true, so true. I've found it harder to make friends as an adult than earlier in life. And I actually think I'm more likeable NOW than THEN! LOL I've been fortunate that I found a great group within my church and the bonds have formed. But you definitely tip toe around each other in the beginning. Gotta try people on for size and see how they fit.

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  8. So true! It is hard work-- but looking at it from a positive view point, sometimes it's worth it! :)

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